| The Marriage Service | |||
|
Structure
|
|||
|
¶
|
Introduction | ||
| The Welcome | |||
| Preface | |||
| The Declarations | |||
| The Collect | |||
| Readings | |||
| Sermon | |||
|
¶
|
The Marriage | ||
| The Vows | |||
| The Giving of Rings | |||
| The Proclamation | |||
| The Blessing of the Marriage | |||
| Registration of the Marriage | |||
| Prayers | |||
| The Dismissal | |||
| For Notes, see here. | |||
| The Marriage Service | |||
|
¶
|
Introduction | ||
|
The Welcome
|
|||
| The minister welcomes the people using these or other appropriate words | |||
| The grace of our Lord Jesus
Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you |
|||
|
All
|
and also with you. | ||
| This sentence may be used | |||
| God is love, and those who live
in love live in God and God lives in them. |
|||
|
1 John 4.16
|
|||
| This prayer may be said | |||
|
All
|
God of wonder and of
joy: grace comes from you, and you alone are the source of life and love. Without you, we cannot please you; without your love, our deeds are worth nothing. Send your Holy Spirit, and pour into our hearts that most excellent gift of love, that we may worship you now with thankful hearts and serve you always with willing minds; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. |
||
| A hymn may be sung. | |||
|
Preface
|
|||
| These words or those provided here are used | |||
| In the presence of God, Father,
Son and Holy Spirit, we have come together to witness the marriage of N and N, to pray for God's blessing on them, to share their joy and to celebrate their love. Marriage is a gift of God in creation through which husband and wife may know the grace of God. It is given that as man and woman grow together in love and trust, they shall be united with one another in heart, body and mind, as Christ is united with his bride, the Church. The gift of marriage brings husband and wife together in the delight and tenderness of sexual union and joyful commitment to the end of their lives. It is given as the foundation of family life in which children are [born and] nurtured and in which each member of the family,in good times and in bad, may find strength, companionship and comfort, and grow to maturity in love. Marriage is a way of life made holy by God, and blessed by the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ with those celebrating a wedding at Cana in Galilee. Marriage is a sign of unity and loyalty which all should uphold and honour. It enriches society and strengthens community. No one should enter into it lightly or selfishly but reverently and responsibly in the sight of almighty God. N and N are now to enter this way of life. They will each give their consent to the other and make solemn vows, and in token of this they will [each] give and receive a ring. We pray with them that the Holy Spirit will guide and strengthen them, that they may fulfil God's purposes for the whole of their earthly life together. |
|||
|
The Declarations
|
|||
| The minister says to the congregation | |||
| First, I am required to ask anyone present who knows a reason why these persons may not lawfully marry, to declare it now. | |||
| The minister says to the couple | |||
| The vows you are about to take
are to be made in the presence of God, who is judge of all and knows all the secrets of our hearts; therefore if either of you knows a reason why you may not lawfully marry, you must declare it now. |
|||
| The minister says to the bridegroom | |||
| N, will you take
N to be your wife? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and protect her, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live? |
|||
| He answers | |||
| I will. | |||
| The minister says to the bride | |||
| N, will you take
N to be your husband? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and protect him, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? |
|||
| She answers | |||
| I will. | |||
| The minister says to the congregation | |||
| Will you, the families and
friends of N and N, support and uphold them in their marriage now and in the years to come? |
|||
|
All
|
We will. | ||
|
The Collect
|
|||
| The minister invites the
people to pray, silence is kept and the minister says the Collect |
|||
| God our Father, from the beginning you have blessed creation with abundant life. Pour out your blessings upon N and N, that they may be joined in mutual love and companionship, in holiness and commitment to each other. We ask this through our Lord Jesus Christ your Son, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. |
|||
|
All
|
Amen. | ||
|
Readings
|
|||
| At least one reading from the Bible is used. A selection of readings is found here. | |||
|
Sermon
|
|||
|
¶
|
The Marriage | ||
| A hymn may be sung. | |||
| The couple stand before the minister. | |||
| The minister introduces the vows in these or similar words | |||
| N and N, I now
invite you to join hands and make your vows, in the presence of God and his people. |
|||
| The bride and bridegroom face each other. | |||
| The bridegroom takes the bride's right hand in his. | |||
| These words, or those provided here, are used | |||
| I, N , take you,
N , to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God's holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow. |
|||
| They loose hands. | |||
| The bride takes the bridegroom's right hand in hers, and says | |||
| I, N , take you,
N , to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God's holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow. |
|||
| They loose hands. | |||
|
The Giving of Rings
|
|||
| The minister receives the ring(s), and says this prayer or the prayer here | |||
| Heavenly Father, by your
blessing let these rings be to N and N a symbol of unending love and faithfulness, to remind them of the vow and covenant which they have made this day through Jesus Christ our Lord. |
|||
|
All
|
Amen. | ||
| The bridegroom places the ring on the fourth finger of the bride's left hand and, holding it there, says | |||
| N, I give you this
ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. |
|||
| If rings are exchanged, they loose hands and the bride places a ring on the fourth finger of the bridegroom's left hand and, holding it there, says | |||
| N, I give you this
ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. |
|||
| If only one ring is used, before they loose hands the bride says | |||
| N, I receive this
ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. |
|||
|
The Proclamation
|
|||
| The minister addresses the people | |||
| In the presence of God, and
before this congregation, N and N have given their consent and made their marriage vows to each other. They have declared their marriage by the joining of hands and by the giving and receiving of rings. I therefore proclaim that they are husband and wife. |
|||
| The minister joins their right hands together and says | |||
| Those whom God has joined together let no one put asunder. | |||
|
The Blessing of the Marriage
|
|||
| The husband and wife kneel. The minister may use the following blessing or one of those provided here. | |||
| Blessed are you, O Lord our
God, for you have created joy and gladness, pleasure and delight, love, peace and fellowship. Pour out the abundance of your blessing upon N and N in their new life together. Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts and a crown upon their heads. Bless them in their work and in their companionship; awake and asleep, in joy and in sorrow, in life and in death. Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet where your saints feast for ever in your heavenly home. We ask this through Jesus Christ your Son, our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. |
|||
|
All
|
Amen. | ||
| The minister says to the couple | |||
| God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit, bless, preserve and keep you; the Lord mercifully grant you the riches of his grace, that you may please him both in body and soul, and, living together in faith and love, may receive the blessings of eternal life. |
|||
|
All
|
Amen. | ||
|
Registration of the Marriage
|
|||
| See Note 10. | |||
| A hymn or psalm may be used (see here). | |||
|
Prayers
|
|||
| These or other suitable prayers are used (see Note 9 and here). The prayers usually include these concerns and may follow this sequence: | |||
|
¶
|
Thanksgiving | ||
|
¶
|
Spiritual growth | ||
|
¶
|
Faithfulness, joy, love, forgiveness and healing | ||
|
¶
|
Children, other family members and friends | ||
| Faithful God, holy and eternal, source of life and spring of love, we thank and praise you for bringing N and N to this day, and we pray for them. Lord of life and love: |
|||
|
All
|
hear our prayer. | ||
| May their marriage be
life-giving and life-long, enriched by your presence and strengthened by your grace; may they bring comfort and confidence to each other in faithfulness and trust. Lord of life and love: |
|||
|
All
|
hear our prayer. | ||
| May the hospitality of their
home bring refreshment and joy to all around them; may their love overflow to neighbours in need and embrace those in distress. Lord of life and love: |
|||
|
All
|
hear our prayer. | ||
| May they discern in your
word order and purpose for their lives; and may the power of your Holy Spirit lead them in truth and defend them in adversity. Lord of life and love: |
|||
|
All
|
hear our prayer. | ||
| May they nurture their family
with devotion, see their children grow in body, mind and spirit and come at last to the end of their lives with hearts content and in joyful anticipation of heaven. Lord of life and love: |
|||
|
All
|
hear our prayer. | ||
| The prayers conclude with the Lord's Prayer. | |||
| As our Saviour taught us, so we pray | |||
|
All
|
Our Father in
heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. For the kingdom, the power, and the glory are yours now and for ever. Amen. |
||
| (or) | |||
| Let us pray with confidence as our Saviour has taught us | |||
|
All
|
Our Father, who art in
heaven, hallowed be thy name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done; on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen. |
||
| A hymn may be sung. | |||
|
The Dismissal
|
|||
| The minister says | |||
| God the Holy Trinity make
you strong in faith and love, defend you on every side, and guide you in truth and peace; and the blessing of God almighty, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, be among you and remain with you always. |
|||
|
All
|
Amen. | ||